Ghosting the Ghost Parent

Updated On: October 16, 2026

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In this candid conversation, Corey and Kendall tackle one of the most painful realities in the adoptee and DNA surprise world — reaching out to a biological parent and getting… nothing in return.

Ghosting the Ghost Parent

Kendall opens up about his own experience with his birth mother: the initial reply that offered hope, the “I need time to process” that turned into months of silence, and the slow realization that this wasn’t a pause — it was a soft no. Together, Corey and Kendall unpack what that kind of rejection feels like, why parents sometimes choose silence, and the emotional work it takes to keep living fully without the answers you want.

This is not a story about closure. It’s a story about reclaiming your voice when someone else chooses not to be part of your story.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

  • Kendall’s personal account of being shut out by his birth mother
  • The difference between ghosting in dating and ghosting in family relationships
  • The mental spiral of “filling in the blanks” when a parent won’t engage
  • Possible reasons behind a parent’s refusal that don’t make the hurt any less
  • Why waiting can cost you more than it gives you
  • How Kendall found support and started to heal
  • A direct message from Kendall to his birth mother — and to anyone living with parental silence

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