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The Comedy of Discovering I’m Not Who I Thought

Updated On: July 24, 2024

Dive into an uproariously insightful episode with Lauren, a stand-up comedian whose journey from genealogical confusion to comedic triumph is anything but ordinary. With a warning for our listeners: we don’t censor comedians, so expect some raw and real language. Lauren shares her tale of discovering her donor conception through a DNA test, her quest to find her biological father, and how these revelations have fueled her unique brand of humor.

The Comedy of Discovery

Key Moments:

  • Lauren’s childhood feeling like a “Viking” in a family of Italians and her path to questioning her identity.
  • The life-changing moment Lauren took a DNA test and the cascade of discoveries about her donor conception.
  • Finding her biological father and connecting with half-siblings, turning complex emotions into comedic material.
  • Lauren’s insights into “genealogical bewilderment” and using comedy as a way to heal and connect with others.
  • A glimpse into Lauren’s stand-up routines and how her unique background shapes her comedy.

Lauren’s journey is a powerful reminder of the unexpected ways our origins can shape us and the transformative power of laughter. Her story not only entertains but also offers profound insights into identity, family, and the courage to face life’s surprises with a smile. Tune in next time for more compelling stories on Family Twist.

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Hello and welcome to another episode of

Family Twist, where we unravel the

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intricate and often unexpected stories of

family, identity, and personal discovery.

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I'm Cory, and along with my partner

Kendall, we dive into a narrative that's

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really wild and as unique as they come

with today's guest.

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Imagine growing up feeling distinctly out

of place in your own family, towering over

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your relatives with unanswered questions

swirling around you.

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Our guest Lauren brings humor to her

journey of self-discovery from suspecting

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she's a

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to facing the bewildering world of DNA

tests.

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As we gear up for the Untangling Our Roots

conference, where Kendall will be speaking

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and Lauren will be lighting up the room

with her misfit variety show, we're

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reminded of the power of comedy to connect

and heal.

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Expect some explicit content because when

you're dealing with a comedian, there are

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no filters.

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And remember, the truth is often stranger

and funnier than fiction.

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Hey Lauren, welcome to the show.

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Thank you for having me.

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Of course, yeah.

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Now we're excited.

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just because we were excited to hear your

story.

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And you and Kendall will get to meet in

person in April for the Untangling Our

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Roots Conference, which he will be on one

of the panels and you will be providing

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the wild and wacky entertainment, right?

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Yeah, we're gonna have a misfit variety

show, Ancestry.comedy edition, open mic,

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and I'll be emceeing that and also doing

some bits from the show as well.

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Cool.

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Awesome.

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That's gonna be great.

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So before we get into your comedy, which I

definitely wanna talk about because we're

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huge comedy fans over here, let me hear a

little bit about your donor conception

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history.

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Well, you know, I never knew, but I knew

something was up, but then you don't know.

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I was basically gaslit for my whole life

because I didn't look like my family at

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all, like in such an extreme way.

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Because like, as we know, like back in the

day, they weren't like,

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sorting through a catalog.

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They just like walked into the doctor's

office and got jizz from whatever med

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student who needed 20 bucks.

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So by random chance, they ended up a tall,

fair English sperm, and I am a shit, like,

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and they are short, little, like dark

little Italians.

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So I was like, super extra.

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I was like skipping around like Will

Ferrell and Elf amongst the little, little

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oputions.

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My feet were hanging off the bed.

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My clothes didn't fit because they didn't

understand that someone.

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was taller, like my mom couldn't conceive

in her head that how tall I was.

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I you know, up until a few years ago, I

never had sleeves for a jacket that came

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down to my wrist.

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Like I didn't understand.

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It was a weird concept.

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What that meant.

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So and then I was like, I'd always ask

because people would be like, Oh, is she

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adopted?

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You know, like, she's the au pair.

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You know, no one understood.

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I'm just kidding.

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No one knew what au pairs were.

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That was Queen's.

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But were you an only child?

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I had three others, because what happened?

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This is why no one can figure it out,

because it was like, well, my mom was

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pregnant.

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And like, she's too boring to cuckold my

dad, unfortunately, like nothing exciting.

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And so we're like, what could it be?

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And like they had three other kids who

look exactly like them, and short little

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dark Italians, very different genes, like

academically, like so different.

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and intellectually and just socially.

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So, and I'd always ask and they would

just, they would just be like, it's all in

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your head basically.

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And then my grandfather got worried that

his like, he's like, my grandfather was

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worried that I wouldn't feel like part of

the family.

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So he, this is a guy who like never

graduated high school off the boat from

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Sicily.

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He went to the library, like an MIT

research scientist and came back with one

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historical fact to explain me.

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And he was like,

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Lauren, okay.

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Because he didn't know about the sperm

donation, by the way, no one knew.

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It's a huge secret.

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So he didn't know.

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So he was just trying to make me feel

better.

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And he was like, okay, Lauren, this is how

you came to be.

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The Vikings invaded Sicily.

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So I'm walking around like a fucking moron

telling everyone I'm a fucking Viking.

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I like was in Bergen and I'm sitting there

like, oh, my fucking roots, like a fucking

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idiot.

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Anyway.

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need to tell you guys this is not I like

we jest but it's like it's like not great

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for my mental health and my self esteem.

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But how did you ultimately so you take a

DNA test?

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Is that how you found out?

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That's how I found so it was like I didn't

know what it was and as soon as someone

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mentioned it I like ran and got it but

however I didn't understand the results

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and

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In fact, I put them on Facebook because I

thought it was such a joke.

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I was like, look at this, I guess I really

am adopted.

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Ha ha ha.

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Because my mind was from England and

Northern Italy and my brothers were from

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Sicily and Greece.

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And my mom was in the comments being like,

end this shit now.

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Oh, okay.

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Like stop it, you are mine, stop this

stuff.

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Guilting me like I'm doing something wrong

because I'm hot on the trail.

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So it didn't like, and I was like, anyway,

this is not accurate, right?

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This is a bunch of bullshit.

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So then I didn't understand it.

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So I like went away, I like three years

passed by and then I'm in Mount Kenya and

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I'm sitting across from a PhD in genetics

and I was told him about it.

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And he was like, siblings are different,

but not by that much.

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And so I came back.

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This is where it gets crazy.

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Oh, this is where it gets crazy.

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Oh, okay.

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You want to, you get, this is where, this

is where it gets even crazier.

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You guys want this, you want the strat.

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I could give you the, Anna, I can give you

the three sentence or if you want.

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We're all about the crazy shit.

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Okay.

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We'll get through the crazy.

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So I come back, right?

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And I'm starting to look, COVID is

starting to come.

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This thing called COVID, we hear it, we're

like, oh, what a bunch of bullshit.

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This is never gonna be anything.

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Everyone's always exaggerating.

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So this is like the kind of like the

mindset we're in, you know, disaster's

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about to come, but we don't know it.

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And then I go to my mom's house when I'm

just starting to figure this out.

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And she gives me a picture of my

godfather.

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And I'm thinking he is tall and fair and

they stopped talking to him when I was

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seven.

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So I was like, maybe this is the guy.

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She's trying to tell me covertly, like

this is it.

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So we go home.

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I go home and then I go onto

ansightstree.com and I call my brother and

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I was like, all right, you pull up your

matches.

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And I was like, do you see mom's cousins?

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He's like, I see mom's cousins.

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I was like, do you see dad's cousins?

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He's like, yeah, right here.

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I was like, oh fuck.

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So then I go and look it up and it was, I

didn't, it said very plainly, like I look

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up my cousin, my dad's cousin, and it

says, not related.

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So then I knew my dad wasn't my dad.

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So then I was like, well, it must be my

godfather.

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And I was like so convinced it was him.

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And then I started looking him up.

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I FedExed him a letter that was like, hi,

you know, has been, you know, it's been

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decades, but wanted to say hi.

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And was super convinced.

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I was asking all of these random DNA

matches, like, do you know this guy named

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John Matyshka?

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And people were like, no, we don't know.

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We don't really know how you're related to

us.

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And then I called ancestry.com because I

was like, I don't understand who all these

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people are that are close matches.

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I don't get, what is this?

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And they were like, ready with

de-escalation techniques.

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They're like, as you guys know, they're

just like, we understand the results must

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be surprising to you.

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And like, that's how many spots are being

blown up that they have drained them.

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They're dealing with crazy people.

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people who are fucking nuts going nuts.

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And so she's like, Listen, we do that for

safety.

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But for sure, those are your cut.

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Those are your siblings.

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And I was like, 15.

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What?

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So then we all go into a Facebook group.

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And we're like, I'm like, maybe and one of

them said, we're in this face, sorry,

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Facebook chat.

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And one of them was like, you know,

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They told me, the doctor told my mom, it

was a sperm donor when it was a med

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student and all this stuff.

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And I was like, oh, sperm donor.

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Okay, maybe my godfather was the sperm

donor.

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And the doctor said med student, but I

figured he probably said, oh, he said

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that.

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And I'm like, my godfather, broke Brooklyn

guy.

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He needed some cash, made checks out to

me.

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So I was super convinced on that.

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But then I had one sibling.

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who took it at face value.

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And he started asking second and first

cousins, did you have a med student in the

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family in New York during these years in

Brooklyn?

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And one person's like, yeah, but give me a

minute.

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She comes back with a name.

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So we got the name and then he noticed

that there was an obituary attached to

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another cousin.

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So the obituary lists the entire family

line.

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And so we got, we knew his name and then

we found his daughter.

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found her on Facebook, scroll down five

seconds later, and we have her wedding

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pictures, and then we have pictures of our

genetic father.

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So, New York is about to close, because

now COVID's a real thing.

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And I'm like, I gotta hear this from my

mother's mouth.

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So I'm driving through the abandoned New

York City streets, not knowing if I'm

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like, if I don't go now, I might not be, I

don't know when I'm gonna be able to drive

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to New York again.

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I was like hiding out in Jersey at the

time.

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So I drive to Long Island where my mom

was, and...

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What also had happened during this is that

this new sibling I had looked on Facebook

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and he's like, wow, Lauren and I have a

common friend.

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So he calls common friend who was his

deceased mother's best friend.

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And he's like, wow, how do we both know

Lauren?

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And she's like, oh, because your mother

was my best friend but I have two best

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friends.

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And the other one,

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is Lauren's mom.

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So he was like, so I think maybe we should

just not talk about this until we figure

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this out.

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Let's just keep this between us.

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Hangs up.

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Now realizing that the reason why his mom

never told her is because she has the

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biggest mouth on the planet.

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So she, so she hangs up and calls my mom

immediately and tells her everything.

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So when my mom answers the door, she knows

that I know that I know that she knows

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that I know.

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It's like was so.

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And so she's like trying to chatter away

and try to like fill up all the air and

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not wanting to bring it up.

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I finally had to say, mom, I did a DNA

test.

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Charles and I, my brother figured it out.

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We know.

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And she was like, I'm not gonna talk about

this.

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I'm leaving.

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I'm like, where are you gonna go, get

COVID?

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Like, where are you going?

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And fine, and she goes into the kitchen.

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She's like angrily doing dishes, so

pissed.

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And I was like, I finally had to make, I

had to break the tension, which is just

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what I always do by making her laugh.

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And I told her something that we had found

out in all of this research.

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And I said, mom, well, the silver lining

to all of this is I am potentially related

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to Princess Diana.

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And she, all of a sudden was like, what?

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And she kind of like relaxed.

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And then I told her like everything I

knew.

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And she was like, told me, you know, she

would confirm stuff and she was like,

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listen, we didn't think we had kids.

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We thought this was our one shot, so to

speak.

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And that's how it happened.

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And we never told a soul, no one ever

knew.

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And I was like, when were you gonna tell

me?

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And she was like, not until my dying

breath.

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I was like, okay.

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And I was like, I asked dad once.

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I asked dad, I got a letter actually, like

crazy enough.

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I got a letter saying, we're looking for

our adopted daughter who was female, born

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in the same hospital as you on the same

day.

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And I brought it to my dad.

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And I was like, dad, maybe I'll be

switched at birth and the wrong person was

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adopted.

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And he's like, put that fucking thing

away.

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I don't want to hear about it again.

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And I was like, why didn't he tell me mom?

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Why didn't he tell me?

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And she's like, cause I would have put a

knife to his throat.

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That's why.

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You know.

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Wow.

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So that's, So that's how it happened.

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So that's, So that's how it happened.

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Who broke it to your brothers?

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I told them because my brother Charles and

I were figuring it out and then we were

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like a clan.

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We brought in my sister, we told her and

she was just shocked and had a few tears

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come down but then also relieved because

now we know.

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Then she was joking like, oh man, you're

not technically related to these people I

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don't like.

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My dad's like, fuck, I wish I was.

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She was laughing about that.

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And then my other brother, we told him,

and it just was like, cause it's like so

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obvious that something is up, that like we

never, it's just like, just tell us.

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Now no one cares, but the shame that

they've put on people for decades, it's so

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sad.

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Yes, it is.

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Just to think that your mother felt so

strong, well, and your father felt so

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strongly that they needed to keep it, you

know, such a secret.

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It's just sad for them.

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Like it was negative on my dad and then my

mom felt too, like she had a miscarriage

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before me and she was like, oh, that was

my fault.

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And so I almost felt like she was

punished.

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You know, it was just like, you know, that

she blames it on herself.

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And it's like, those are the natural

things that people like do think, but they

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have their support groups and podcasts and

books and therapists now that can help you

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through that.

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But there was nothing, they just blamed it

on themselves and like.

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moved on hating themselves.

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They ignore their Viking tall daughter.

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah.

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You know.

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They're just like, well, we're gaslighting

you for a few decades, but hey.

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Have you reached out to your potential

cousin Harry?

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Harry, I kind of want to fuck with him.

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I kind of want to like, cause it's like,

kind of like, you know, it's like, you

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know these are potential connections,

right?

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And, but it's still like, wow.

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I might have some pretty like aristocratic

jeans like from far back, but I'm like,

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it's too late to claim that.

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I've already been imprinted with Queen's

Italian, you know, like it's just too

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late.

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So, but I kind of want to like fuck with

him and like knock on his door and be

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like, hello, it's your cousin from Queen.

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I love it.

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That's great.

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Oh my goodness.

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So how did humor sort of play into you

feeling different your whole life?

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Humor.

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Well,

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You know, I never, well, I was kind of the

joke for a long time, so it was hard to do

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the joke.

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I always knew I wanted to like tell,

communicate what was happening around me.

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And I think that was because I can't

believe it myself.

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Like it was a way to heal.

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Like this is happening.

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Everyone's telling me I'm crazy.

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Like, please someone, cause when you would

tell a story, it would be, people would

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give you that reaction of like what was

really happening.

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You know, like.

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be able to communicate and also like see,

I mean in an Italian family, like people

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are funny.

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Like there's a lot of humor, not always

nice humor, but they're not always nice.

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But you know, humor is used to like bring

people together.

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And so I took that lesson from it and then

felt the power of that as I started

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talking about this and people come up to

me after the show and tell me, or during

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the show that happens a lot, where I start

just talking about it and then I noticed

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someone go.

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Like whisper to their people and I said

what happened what trauma did I provoke

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and then they tell like they'll some

something like Yeah, I did a DNA test and

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blah blah.

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That's probably super therapeutic for them

at that moment in time Yeah, and the

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audience the audience loves it because

they feel like they're part of something

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real and like Everyone's everyone's

walking around with hurt and secrets and

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of many kinds.

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I mean

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of family drama, this is one type of many.

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So it's therapeutic to watch other people

make it public.

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Well, you know, it's like, you're kind of

helping to build the community in that

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setting, honestly.

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I think that matters a lot.

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I mean, I wish when I was six years ago

when I found my biological family, I wish

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I had some sort of moment like that to be

able to, you know, spew.

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Yeah.

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We talk about nature versus nurture a lot

on the show.

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Are there funny people in your pod?

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The newly discovered family?

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No one is like...

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Outwardly.

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Yeah.

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No one is like an entertainer in my, it's

interesting, but I get my curiosity and my

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love of reading and learning from them,

for sure.

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I think I might get it.

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My dad is maybe one of the best with met,

I've never seen anyone as good with

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metaphor as him.

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He's incredible, he's incredible.

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I mean, he would need to learn how to

craft comedy for the stage, like he thinks

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he's freaking John Rickles.

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And I'm like, oh.

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Like, entertaining a dinner table is not

the same, but you have some talent that

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could be craft.

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But you know, like, let's be honest.

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So I think I do.

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get some of my, but I think the

earnestness comes, like my earnestness

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comes from, like I, so I'm pretty, people

describe what anything I do is

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heartwarmingly irreverent.

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And so I'm very, like I'll say some pretty

hard things or reverent things, but like

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I'll joke about my dad's balls and things

like that.

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and contemplate if he loves me, you know,

love that I wouldn't exist anyway.

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But I do it from, I never want anyone to

feel bad.

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So that's where I'm different.

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The irreverent comes from my Italian side,

but the not wanting people to feel bad, I

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feel like is from my Spencer side.

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So it's the combination of nature versus

nurture that makes up the comedy of

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Lauren.

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I think so.

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Now that we analyze, I've never been asked

this.

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This is interesting.

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We are halfway through this rollercoaster

of an episode.

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You don't want to miss what's coming up

next with Lauren.

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We've reopened Pandora's box a lot.

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I miss you.

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And we don't know how to close it.

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Apologies, Libby.

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Okay, but I will say this, and I don't

know how to, maybe we can, you could help

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me understand how to even like talk about

this.

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The thing that I wish, I don't know how to

communicate it, that, okay, it's called

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genealogical B-Boltarmit.

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It's a thing that's debated, but I feel it

hard.

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Like, I didn't know what I looked like

until I met my biological father.

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And I almost, because you like create

your, for people who don't know about

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this, it's like, if you don't know where

you're come from, you can't create in your

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mind the image of yourself.

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Because you don't know where you're from

or who you'd have bounced it on.

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You're creating images based on people you

look at.

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So mine was like a little like Italian,

you know?

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And I never knew my body and space.

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I would bang my head on a lot of things

because I thought I'd be older.

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Even buying myself the wrong clothes.

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I was buying myself clothes that were too

small.

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Then I met my biological father and I met

his eyes and it was the happiest moment of

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my life.

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As I was like, I know where I come from

now.

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And I felt my body and space.

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It was almost like one of those cartoons,

where the color becomes, the black and

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white becomes color.

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And I know what, and I know what, I stood

next to him.

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I have the same body type.

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And we're both like, actually I could say

my humor, the irreverent a little bit

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comes from Jim.

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Cause he says things that are just like

off, he'll just like have, he'll throw out

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something that's like crazy.

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Like, and that's kinda, that's how I do it

sometimes comedy.

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You know, I'll just throw out like

something that's crazy.

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But we're like, what?

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And we both have similar personalities.

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It's fucking nuts.

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Both carry a black backpack.

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Anyway, well, how do you, anyway, but how

do you describe?

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genealogical bewilderment?

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Do you even believe in it?

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And how do you explain this to people?

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That is a good question.

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I don't know that I've given it much

thought just because I know my family,

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I've always known who they are and

everything, and we look like each other,

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and it's just, it's not been a thing for

me.

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Then you mentioned you met your biological

father.

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How did he come to find out that there was

this pod out there?

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Well, the person, the second cousin who

told us his name asked him, like, listen,

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is this cool?

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Can I tell him?

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And he was like, all right, let's do it.

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Wow.

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So we contacted him and he, you know, he

thinks it's funny.

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He's like me, he thinks the whole thing's

a hoot.

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He just, I mean, he's kind of like, I

joke, like he's living the male fantasy.

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All he had to do is deposit sperm and he

has kids to hang out with him 35 years

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later.

447

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Like, yeah.

448

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I know that.

449

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Exactly.

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Like, he has an awesome.

451

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He has it great and everyone is so cool

and he loves, he's like, you're all weird

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and I love that.

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And that's- Did he have children

otherwise?

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He has one who wants nothing to do with

us, but that's okay.

455

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It's sad.

456

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I was in Japan, cause she's half Japanese

and I did go to Japan in December.

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Kind of like as I always wanted to go to

Japan, but my biological father's been

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there many times.

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He speaks Japanese.

460

00:22:21,199 --> 00:22:24,562

My new sister also has connections to

Japan.

461

00:22:24,562 --> 00:22:26,823

She's not Japanese, but her husband was.

462

00:22:26,943 --> 00:22:33,028

And she said, so I went, and I feel like I

understand very well that like I joked on

463

00:22:33,028 --> 00:22:34,710

stage in Japan, I did a show in Tokyo.

464

00:22:34,710 --> 00:22:38,713

I was like, yes, in classic Japanese

fashion, my sister wants nothing to do

465

00:22:38,713 --> 00:22:39,073

with me.

466

00:22:39,073 --> 00:22:40,995

And they were like, ah!

467

00:22:40,995 --> 00:22:42,756

So I get why.

468

00:22:42,756 --> 00:22:44,797

They like to just kind of, yeah.

469

00:22:45,002 --> 00:22:48,843

And that might change, you know, it might,

but.

470

00:22:50,104 --> 00:22:50,904

Yeah, maybe.

471

00:22:50,904 --> 00:22:55,346

I still have a half brother that doesn't

really want to know me.

472

00:22:55,346 --> 00:22:57,387

My mother's other son.

473

00:22:57,988 --> 00:22:59,368

Yeah, whatever.

474

00:22:59,669 --> 00:23:03,290

I want to know him, but, you know, we'll

see.

475

00:23:03,290 --> 00:23:03,890

Right.

476

00:23:04,811 --> 00:23:07,612

Interestingly, sometimes it's like she's

in the thick of it.

477

00:23:07,612 --> 00:23:08,312

Yeah.

478

00:23:08,493 --> 00:23:10,393

Sometimes when you're in the thick of.

479

00:23:10,946 --> 00:23:14,047

or life stuff, you know, if you're in the

thick of some tough life stuff, you're

480

00:23:14,047 --> 00:23:18,108

just like, I can't have emotional space to

do this, but like maybe another time.

481

00:23:18,468 --> 00:23:19,148

Yeah.

482

00:23:19,148 --> 00:23:22,529

So we talked a little bit about your

standup, but I know you also do character

483

00:23:22,529 --> 00:23:22,909

work.

484

00:23:22,909 --> 00:23:25,230

Do you sort of relate that to sketch?

485

00:23:25,230 --> 00:23:28,070

Cause sketch is like my favorite type of

comedy.

486

00:23:28,831 --> 00:23:29,291

Yeah.

487

00:23:29,291 --> 00:23:32,292

I mean, I can't feel like the characters

are sketches, you know, on their own.

488

00:23:32,292 --> 00:23:34,652

It's like, I just don't have patience to

deal with other people.

489

00:23:34,652 --> 00:23:35,273

So I just do it.

490

00:23:35,273 --> 00:23:36,353

I think you're wise.

491

00:23:36,353 --> 00:23:37,713

Yeah.

492

00:23:38,314 --> 00:23:42,395

Well, it's a bummer that Milani has been

so behind the scenes in that matter.

493

00:23:44,136 --> 00:23:44,836

She is.

494

00:23:44,836 --> 00:23:46,057

Oh, what are you kidding me?

495

00:23:46,057 --> 00:23:46,977

I go to spa.

496

00:23:46,977 --> 00:23:47,998

I have no time for this.

497

00:23:47,998 --> 00:23:50,919

I say I you know how many times I have to

smile in pictures.

498

00:23:50,919 --> 00:23:53,040

You know how many wrinkles I get no more.

499

00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:54,841

Do not bring me in front of them.

500

00:23:54,841 --> 00:23:55,701

I don't care.

501

00:23:55,701 --> 00:23:56,841

I will not come out.

502

00:23:56,841 --> 00:23:57,441

No.

503

00:23:57,450 --> 00:23:57,650

Yeah.

504

00:23:57,650 --> 00:23:59,610

She's not, she doesn't know.

505

00:23:59,610 --> 00:24:04,793

She's like, Oh, I have to take care of my,

all my attention is on my 17 year old son.

506

00:24:04,793 --> 00:24:07,434

Like, have you met a 17 year old who wants

her mom around?

507

00:24:07,434 --> 00:24:12,156

That kid.

508

00:24:12,156 --> 00:24:16,137

That's right.

509

00:24:16,137 --> 00:24:16,237

Yeah.

510

00:24:16,237 --> 00:24:17,138

You know what?

511

00:24:17,138 --> 00:24:17,778

He's a tall kid.

512

00:24:17,778 --> 00:24:19,839

So maybe, I don't know who knows, maybe

you're related to him too.

513

00:24:19,839 --> 00:24:21,380

Oh God.

514

00:24:21,380 --> 00:24:24,621

Maybe who knows all the tall random,

random kids.

515

00:24:25,101 --> 00:24:25,926

Oh boy.

516

00:24:25,926 --> 00:24:28,227

So talk to us a little bit about your

comedy.

517

00:24:28,227 --> 00:24:32,329

Where's the passion for comedy come from

and what is it like for you when you're on

518

00:24:32,329 --> 00:24:33,590

stage?

519

00:24:33,590 --> 00:24:38,813

Well, I love making, I love really just

bringing people together through laughter.

520

00:24:38,813 --> 00:24:46,997

And so I just, I love being on stage and

sort of bringing the room, you know, into

521

00:24:46,997 --> 00:24:53,080

one entity and being able to bring us on a

journey, a comedic journey.

522

00:24:53,121 --> 00:24:54,966

That's what my passion is.

523

00:24:54,966 --> 00:24:59,630

Have you performed for like a full

audience of people in the community?

524

00:25:01,352 --> 00:25:01,792

The.

525

00:25:01,792 --> 00:25:02,393

I haven't.

526

00:25:02,393 --> 00:25:03,234

Yeah, this will be fun.

527

00:25:03,234 --> 00:25:04,174

Yeah.

528

00:25:05,095 --> 00:25:06,657

Interesting news.

529

00:25:06,657 --> 00:25:07,278

I have.

530

00:25:07,278 --> 00:25:09,019

So we'll see how it goes.

531

00:25:09,019 --> 00:25:12,222

I mean, I don't, I don't even, it's, it's

fun.

532

00:25:12,222 --> 00:25:17,487

I, I'm just a little nervous because I'm

like, I don't know the right word.

533

00:25:18,609 --> 00:25:18,869

Yeah.

534

00:25:18,869 --> 00:25:19,889

It's, I mean.

535

00:25:20,206 --> 00:25:22,026

it's going to be an interesting

experience.

536

00:25:22,026 --> 00:25:27,348

But the way that the folks from Right to

Know describe it, their conference last

537

00:25:27,348 --> 00:25:31,909

year was just like a level of like ease

and comfort and everybody.

538

00:25:31,909 --> 00:25:35,250

Because everybody, you're not having to

like break the ice with anybody because

539

00:25:35,250 --> 00:25:37,210

everybody's got their own fucked up story.

540

00:25:37,210 --> 00:25:39,111

You know?

541

00:25:39,111 --> 00:25:40,531

Yeah, yeah.

542

00:25:40,531 --> 00:25:42,212

We're like united in a drama.

543

00:25:42,212 --> 00:25:43,752

Exactly, yes.

544

00:25:44,112 --> 00:25:47,513

I love those family secrets.

545

00:25:47,513 --> 00:25:49,266

Yep, everyone's got them.

546

00:25:49,266 --> 00:25:52,827

So now we were on your site, just kind of

refreshing ourselves a little bit today,

547

00:25:52,827 --> 00:25:57,068

since we knew we were going to talk and

you identify as queer, but you're married

548

00:25:57,068 --> 00:25:58,828

to a system, you're male.

549

00:25:58,968 --> 00:25:59,708

Yeah, dude.

550

00:25:59,708 --> 00:26:01,629

It's so fucking dumb.

551

00:26:01,629 --> 00:26:02,989

It's so dumb.

552

00:26:03,489 --> 00:26:04,710

Love is love.

553

00:26:06,290 --> 00:26:07,311

As long as you like him.

554

00:26:07,311 --> 00:26:07,931

That's what matters.

555

00:26:07,931 --> 00:26:08,191

Right?

556

00:26:08,191 --> 00:26:09,691

Yeah.

557

00:26:09,691 --> 00:26:10,691

Oh, he's amazing.

558

00:26:10,691 --> 00:26:11,432

He's amazing.

559

00:26:11,432 --> 00:26:14,292

He loves, um, he's a gem.

560

00:26:14,292 --> 00:26:17,873

He likes surfing jujitsu and he goes to

farmer's markets.

561

00:26:20,030 --> 00:26:23,892

And so he's like, I don't know where I

found this guy.

562

00:26:23,892 --> 00:26:26,013

He like picked me up in his hybrid.

563

00:26:26,594 --> 00:26:30,416

He had this song playing and he's like, do

you like this?

564

00:26:30,416 --> 00:26:31,297

I love this band.

565

00:26:31,297 --> 00:26:32,457

I'm like the Indigo girls?

566

00:26:32,457 --> 00:26:34,519

I'm like, no.

567

00:26:34,519 --> 00:26:39,622

And then we go to his house and he opens

his garage and there's a photo of a poster

568

00:26:39,622 --> 00:26:40,422

of dolphins.

569

00:26:40,422 --> 00:26:45,045

I was like, where did I find you?

570

00:26:45,045 --> 00:26:46,365

He's a little lesbian.

571

00:26:46,926 --> 00:26:47,886

He's a little lesbian.

572

00:26:47,886 --> 00:26:49,107

He's like, don't get home too late.

573

00:26:49,107 --> 00:26:50,208

I need from the show.

574

00:26:50,208 --> 00:26:52,490

I want to go to the farmer's market early

before it gets crowded.

575

00:26:52,490 --> 00:26:54,411

I'm like, who are you?

576

00:26:54,412 --> 00:26:56,874

I, I already like him.

577

00:26:56,874 --> 00:26:59,476

Yeah.

578

00:26:59,476 --> 00:27:01,277

How do you two feel about kids?

579

00:27:01,277 --> 00:27:02,598

We're not interested.

580

00:27:02,598 --> 00:27:03,999

Just have other things going on.

581

00:27:03,999 --> 00:27:05,340

We're just not into it.

582

00:27:05,340 --> 00:27:10,624

Although, I mean, he, and also like, he's

got a lot of, he's got a lot of, like,

583

00:27:10,825 --> 00:27:12,466

he's got a lot of addiction on his side.

584

00:27:12,466 --> 00:27:13,807

Okay.

585

00:27:13,807 --> 00:27:13,907

Yeah.

586

00:27:13,907 --> 00:27:16,842

So we're a little bit like, like a lot.

587

00:27:16,842 --> 00:27:19,882

a lot, it'd be 50-50.

588

00:27:20,022 --> 00:27:22,483

The kid would be popping heroin.

589

00:27:23,883 --> 00:27:24,724

Yeah.

590

00:27:24,724 --> 00:27:28,085

So at the other end, well, there's another

thing.

591

00:27:28,085 --> 00:27:32,526

Well, this probably won't make me very

popular, but anyway, there's a book called

592

00:27:32,526 --> 00:27:41,508

The Crumbling Genome, and it says that

sperm over 35 degrades in quality.

593

00:27:41,548 --> 00:27:43,269

So he's over that.

594

00:27:43,269 --> 00:27:45,649

I don't know if you remember years ago,

595

00:27:46,242 --> 00:27:47,302

fathered a child at 80.

596

00:27:47,302 --> 00:27:49,523

We need to find out what's going on with

that kid.

597

00:27:49,523 --> 00:27:50,464

Yeah, it's bad.

598

00:27:50,464 --> 00:27:52,505

That's why Barron, they keep him from

view.

599

00:27:52,505 --> 00:27:54,006

And also, you know, yeah.

600

00:27:54,006 --> 00:27:59,168

And so I do this act now where I'm a

preacher and I come on and it's my mission

601

00:27:59,168 --> 00:28:03,010

to tell people about your broken down

sperm.

602

00:28:03,071 --> 00:28:04,371

Sir, how old are you?

603

00:28:04,371 --> 00:28:05,492

When it's like I'm 40.

604

00:28:05,492 --> 00:28:08,554

Oh my God, his sperm needs swimmies.

605

00:28:08,554 --> 00:28:13,116

You can call me out in the audience.

606

00:28:13,116 --> 00:28:15,457

I'm only 53, you know.

607

00:28:16,754 --> 00:28:19,635

castration, castration.

608

00:28:21,416 --> 00:28:25,597

And then that's, you know, maybe the

assisted reproduction people might

609

00:28:25,597 --> 00:28:30,279

appreciate because women are constantly

shamed over 35 years, they use terms like

610

00:28:30,279 --> 00:28:35,741

expired and shaming for all everything

wrong with children is because women over

611

00:28:35,741 --> 00:28:37,162

35 are having children.

612

00:28:37,162 --> 00:28:42,724

So it's fun because as soon as the women

realize what I'm doing, and they go,

613

00:28:42,724 --> 00:28:46,485

they're like, so they thank me after

because they're like,

614

00:28:46,566 --> 00:28:50,127

You know, even when they're 30, when

they're 25, they feel it.

615

00:28:50,127 --> 00:28:52,988

They're like, because they feel like, oh,

my God.

616

00:28:52,988 --> 00:28:53,549

Over the hill.

617

00:28:53,549 --> 00:28:55,329

Yeah.

618

00:28:55,329 --> 00:28:56,590

Back up just for a second.

619

00:28:56,590 --> 00:29:03,053

I really thought you were going to say he

has a lot of cats.

620

00:29:03,053 --> 00:29:03,613

Oh, my God.

621

00:29:03,613 --> 00:29:04,614

That's funny.

622

00:29:04,614 --> 00:29:06,014

That's what I've been roasted before.

623

00:29:06,014 --> 00:29:08,135

Someone said about me, like, you look like

you have a lot of cats.

624

00:29:08,135 --> 00:29:09,496

That's great.

625

00:29:13,754 --> 00:29:16,155

Oh, I would if Cory would let me.

626

00:29:16,155 --> 00:29:18,055

Yeah, we're down to two.

627

00:29:18,055 --> 00:29:22,417

We're down to two Two two cats five dogs.

628

00:29:22,417 --> 00:29:26,519

They're tiny We have five little dogs.

629

00:29:26,519 --> 00:29:32,361

You have a yes And he keeps saying no more

dogs and I keep saying no more cats But

630

00:29:32,361 --> 00:29:36,923

yet he showed me a puppy this morning and

like yeah We got a lot going on right now

631

00:29:36,923 --> 00:29:40,625

You know, I work from home three days a

week.

632

00:29:40,625 --> 00:29:42,766

So I'm like I'm here with these

633

00:29:42,766 --> 00:29:46,368

crazies and it's like I gotta worry when I

hear it when they're loud and I gotta

634

00:29:46,368 --> 00:29:47,789

worry when they're quiet.

635

00:29:48,610 --> 00:29:52,293

Yes yes that is like having the kids.

636

00:29:53,274 --> 00:29:55,696

Oh they get into some stuff yeah for sure.

637

00:29:55,696 --> 00:29:59,399

Wow well this has been a lot of fun you're

fantastic.

638

00:29:59,399 --> 00:30:00,901

So fun thank you guys.

639

00:30:00,901 --> 00:30:05,804

Really looking forward to seeing what this

convention is gonna be like for everybody.

640

00:30:06,245 --> 00:30:07,185

Yeah.

641

00:30:07,714 --> 00:30:11,315

Definitely and anyone who, you know, the

Misfit Variety Show is gonna be in Denver.

642

00:30:11,315 --> 00:30:14,237

If you're there that Sunday, we're doing

it Sunday night.

643

00:30:14,237 --> 00:30:15,118

And it should be fun.

644

00:30:15,118 --> 00:30:16,678

And that'll be the full show.

645

00:30:16,678 --> 00:30:20,761

And the full show, when I do the Misfit

Variety Show, we bring together people

646

00:30:20,761 --> 00:30:25,483

from like very different experiences of

being outside the box.

647

00:30:25,483 --> 00:30:29,505

So that can include donor conceived, it

can include people in our community

648

00:30:29,505 --> 00:30:30,706

adoption, all of that.

649

00:30:30,706 --> 00:30:36,849

And it can also includes people who just

like had a crazy life or, you know, had

650

00:30:36,849 --> 00:30:37,330

a...

651

00:30:37,330 --> 00:30:39,692

unique family experience, whatever.

652

00:30:39,692 --> 00:30:41,213

So we bring everyone together.

653

00:30:41,213 --> 00:30:42,815

That would be good.

654

00:30:42,815 --> 00:30:43,155

Yeah.

655

00:30:43,155 --> 00:30:44,896

I think Kendall's not, you're not leaving

until Monday.

656

00:30:44,896 --> 00:30:45,737

So I think you could go.

657

00:30:45,737 --> 00:30:45,977

Yeah.

658

00:30:45,977 --> 00:30:48,079

Oh my God.

659

00:30:48,079 --> 00:30:48,540

I will go for sure.

660

00:30:48,540 --> 00:30:49,340

That's gonna be fun.

661

00:30:49,340 --> 00:30:51,823

Yeah.

662

00:30:51,823 --> 00:30:55,306

Well, we so appreciate what you do because

yes, the voices are growing.

663

00:30:55,306 --> 00:31:00,450

The voices are getting louder, but there

are some people who respond to traditional

664

00:31:00,450 --> 00:31:01,331

activism.

665

00:31:01,331 --> 00:31:03,773

And then there are other people who are

gonna respond to what you're doing.

666

00:31:03,773 --> 00:31:04,393

And

667

00:31:04,414 --> 00:31:07,534

and becoming part of the community and

becoming allies through humor.

668

00:31:07,534 --> 00:31:08,695

So thank you for what you're doing.

669

00:31:08,695 --> 00:31:11,855

Yeah, of course, thank you.

670

00:31:13,256 --> 00:31:18,317

I'm just trying to make people feel good

and loved and accepted for whatever,

671

00:31:18,317 --> 00:31:21,898

however they came to us, however they came

to us that day.

672

00:31:21,898 --> 00:31:27,000

Yeah, no, I mean, we've always, in our

past, Kendall and I have always been big

673

00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:30,101

supporters of our gay rights stuff.

674

00:31:30,101 --> 00:31:33,121

We were both involved with the human

rights campaign in San Francisco.

675

00:31:33,322 --> 00:31:37,765

And then now, you know, we're part of this

community and it's just like, we love it.

676

00:31:37,765 --> 00:31:41,228

And I think I mentioned it to someone the

other day, like every time we have one of

677

00:31:41,228 --> 00:31:43,730

these conversations, it's like, we just

made a new friend.

678

00:31:43,730 --> 00:31:46,392

And then, you know, it's hard to make new

friends when you're of a certain age,

679

00:31:46,392 --> 00:31:48,213

right?

680

00:31:48,213 --> 00:31:51,035

Or if you come to my shows, cause we have

a pre-show.

681

00:31:51,155 --> 00:31:54,078

So we, we're all about making friends.

682

00:31:54,078 --> 00:31:55,819

So you can come to my shows.

683

00:31:55,819 --> 00:31:58,881

You go to Lauren Logie, laurenlogie.com.

684

00:31:59,594 --> 00:32:01,994

And I have the Misfit Variety Show, which

tours.

685

00:32:01,994 --> 00:32:05,075

And then I have a regular room in New York

City called the Capiche Club.

686

00:32:05,075 --> 00:32:05,795

It's pretty awesome.

687

00:32:05,795 --> 00:32:06,556

Next time we're there.

688

00:32:06,556 --> 00:32:07,776

Yeah, absolutely.

689

00:32:07,776 --> 00:32:09,536

Yeah, love, love New York City.

690

00:32:09,536 --> 00:32:13,297

So it was just there around the holidays

with Kendall's half sister.

691

00:32:13,297 --> 00:32:13,998

Yeah.

692

00:32:13,998 --> 00:32:15,738

And it's her first time in the city.

693

00:32:15,738 --> 00:32:16,818

So, and she loved it.

694

00:32:16,818 --> 00:32:20,099

So I know we'll be back.

695

00:32:20,099 --> 00:32:20,479

Yeah.

696

00:32:20,479 --> 00:32:20,700

Hell yeah.

697

00:32:20,700 --> 00:32:21,560

Would love to have you guys.

698

00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:23,100

Love to have you, let me know.

699

00:32:23,100 --> 00:32:24,040

Awesome.

700

00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:25,361

Well, thank you so much.

701

00:32:25,361 --> 00:32:25,641

Okay.

702

00:32:25,641 --> 00:32:26,441

Bye now.

703

00:32:26,441 --> 00:32:27,021

Bye.

704

00:32:27,021 --> 00:32:27,954

Okay, bye.

705

00:32:27,954 --> 00:32:32,197

As we wrap up today's episode, it's pretty

clear that Lauren's journey from

706

00:32:32,197 --> 00:32:37,000

genealogical bewilderment to a place of

humor, acceptance, and connection is a

707

00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,381

testament to the strength of the human

spirit.

708

00:32:39,482 --> 00:32:42,724

Her ability to laugh in the face of

confusion and to build bridges through

709

00:32:42,724 --> 00:32:47,227

comedy is a reminder that our stories, no

matter how convoluted, are the fabric of

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who we are.

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Thanks for joining us on this ride and a

huge thanks to Lauren for sharing her

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laughter and light with us all.

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The Family Twist Podcast.

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features original music by Cosmic

Afterthoughts and is presented by Savoir

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