“We’re Doing the Work”: A Father–Daughter Reunion Story

Updated On: October 16, 2026

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What happens when a father and daughter meet for the first time, in adulthood, and decide to build the relationship in public, in real time?

In this episode of Family Twist, Corey sits down with Joseph McGill Jr. and his daughter Charity Barriere Muhammad, who reunited just six months ago and are already preparing to share their story on stage together at Untangling Our Roots Summit 2026 in Atlanta, March 19–22, 2026. 

Joseph is the founder and Executive Director of The Slave Dwelling Project, an effort that brings attention to the overlooked structures where enslaved people lived by arranging overnight stays in extant slave dwellings, creating space for truth-telling, dialogue, and public education.  He is also the coauthor of Sleeping with the Ancestors: How I Followed the Footprints of Slavery, a deeply personal account of that work and what it reveals about American history, memory, and legacy. 

Charity is a cultural storyteller, educator, author, and the visionary behind Gumbo for the Soul, blending ancestry, creativity, and community.  In Corey’s conversation with Charity and Joseph, you’ll hear how reunion has expanded her sense of identity, including the way heritage and family history show up in food, traditions, and the stories we tell ourselves about where we come from.

Together, Joseph and Charity speak candidly about the early days of reunion, learning trust, holding space for hard truths, and what it means to build a relationship as two adults who both had full lives before they ever met. They also talk about what they hope others in the adoption, donor-conceived, and NPE communities take from their experience, especially those who are still searching, still processing, or still afraid to ask the next question.

Kendall will be attending Untangling Our Roots for the first time, and this episode is part preview, part love letter to the messy middle, where healing is real, but so is the work.

In this episode, we cover

  • What six months of reunion can feel like, emotionally and practically
  • Nature and nurture moments, when similarities show up in unexpected ways
  • Trust-building after a lifetime without a parent-child relationship
  • How Joseph’s work as a public historian shapes his view of legacy and family
  • How food, recipes, and cultural inheritance become part of reunion
  • Why therapy, patience, and “doing your part” matter in late discovery family connections
  • What Joseph and Charity hope their on-stage conversation sparks for others at Untangling Our Roots

Guest spotlight

Joseph McGill Jr.
Founder and Executive Director, The Slave Dwelling Project.
Coauthor, Sleeping with the Ancestors: How I Followed the Footprints of Slavery. 

Charity Barriere Muhammad
Founder, Gumbo for the Soul, author, educator, cultural storyteller. 

Mentioned in this episode

  • Untangling Our Roots Summit 2026 (Atlanta, March 19–22, 2026) 
  • The Slave Dwelling Project 
  • Sleeping with the Ancestors: How I Followed the Footprints of Slavery 
  • Gumbo for the Soul 

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